A Christmas Stripped back

Posted by Hayley Esther on Wednesday, December 18, 2024
Published from Blogger Prime Android AppA Christmas stripped back.
For many of you Christmas is not a easy thing to celebrate. You're in hiding and there for unable to do the festive dance of Christmas without serious risk.

I want to be sensitive to that audience but at the same time acknowledge the holiday for those of you who do celebrate it. 

Happy holidays to one and all reading this right now. 

To those of you for one reason or another who are crystal ops right now. Well done for holding your position when all about you is tempting to break cover. You can do this. 

You have what it takes to be strong in the face of weakness. When you feel that strength is gone remember God can carry you if you ask Him. Your situation may not change but He will be your strength to get through it if you ask Him. 

Praying for you, 

Stay savvy sweetie love Hayley 

From Polished to Persecuted - Our new direction

Posted by Hayley Esther on Sunday, December 01, 2024

 Having reviewed my stats I can see that most of you following this blog are not OG.

So when I refer back to posts I've done, its your first time reading them.

This is freeing because it means I can move on from the last era of blogging and bring you fresh new content that is designed for the audience I now have. 

This blog aims to serve, we have had several topic shifts in the past and im happy to shift again.

What I need to know is what do you want? 

I'm looking at my audience and I have some idea of what you need but to do this im going to have to shift again.

See, most of you live in eastern countries and I am a westerner. I can and have written content for the east but im very aware that you need different things then we do in the west. 

In order to serve the audience I now have, I think we need to take things back to where Daisy Change originally started , mental health and faith, Christian faith. 

Not the shiny packaged faith of contempery christianity, but the grittier real soulwrenching faith that is going to get you through what you are facing.

I know that most of you reading this are in a situation where you don't have the luxury of being out and proud about your faith in Jesus. You are facing some very real dangers.

I want to be sensitive to that audience, so from now on we build you up so you can face the day. 

To the persecuted church reading this, thank you for trusting me. I will work hard to ensure the posts going forward are sensitive to your needs. 

To any westerners reading this, the content will still be for you, but with that sensitive slant on it for our persecuted brothers and sisters in eastern countries.

We're going back to authentic faith.

Let's go!



The Gospel of Jesus Christ for Iran

Posted by Hayley Esther on Saturday, November 16, 2024
A Message of Hope and Love: The Gospel of Jesus Christ for Iran

Dear friends,
We come with a message of hope and love, rooted in the eternal truths of God. It is a message that transcends borders, languages, and cultures—a message of peace and salvation through Jesus Christ.

God's Love for All People
The Bible teaches us that God created the world and everything in it, including each of us. He knows you personally and loves you deeply. The Scriptures say, "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16). This love is for everyone—every nation, every tribe, and every individual.

Our Need for God
Each of us has sinned and fallen short of God's perfect standard. Sin separates us from God, but He does not leave us without hope. He desires a relationship with you and has made a way to reconcile us to Himself.

The Good News: Jesus Christ
Two thousand years ago, God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, into the world. Born of a virgin, Jesus lived a sinless life, teaching love, forgiveness, and truth. He willingly gave His life on the cross as a sacrifice for our sins. On the third day, He rose from the dead, defeating death and proving His power to save.

The Bible promises, "If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). This salvation is not something we earn; it is a gift from God, received through faith.

What This Means for You
Jesus invites you into a personal relationship with Him. He offers peace for your heart, forgiveness for your sins, and eternal life in His presence. As you trust in Him, He will guide you and fill your life with purpose and joy.

Iran has a rich spiritual heritage, and God’s hand is at work among its people. Today, you can be part of His unfolding plan. Will you open your heart to Jesus?

A Simple Prayer to Begin
If you want to invite Jesus into your life, you can pray this prayer:

Lord Jesus, I believe that You are the Son of God. I believe You died on the cross for my sins and rose again to give me new life. Please forgive me for all my sins. I invite You into my heart. Be my Savior, my Lord, and my guide. I choose to follow You. Thank You for Your love and grace. Amen.

A New Journey
If you prayed that prayer, know that you are now part of God’s family. He promises to be with you always. We encourage you to read the Bible, seek fellowship with other believers, and grow in your faith.

God is calling His people in Iran to be a light in the darkness, sharing His love and truth with the world. May you find peace, hope, and life in Jesus Christ.

With love in Christ,
Your brothers and sisters in faith

How To Honer The Ultimate Ancestor

Posted by Hayley Esther on Saturday, November 16, 2024
A Message of Hope: The Gospel for a Japanese Audience

In Japan, the beauty of nature, the values of harmony and respect, and the deep longing for peace and purpose reflect something profound about the human heart. These qualities point to a greater reality—a Creator who made us and everything around us with love and purpose.

This Creator, whom the Bible calls God the ultimate ancestor, is the source of all life. From the beginning, God made us to live in a close relationship with Him, experiencing His peace (what Christians call shalom) and joy. However, we see that the world is filled with suffering, conflict, and emptiness. This separation is because of something called sin—our tendency to live apart from God's ways and design.

In the Bible, God reveals His love for all people, including the Japanese people. He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, into the world to restore what was broken. Jesus lived a perfect life, full of compassion, wisdom, and power. He healed the sick, welcomed the outcast, and taught about God's Kingdom—a kingdom where justice, love, and peace reign.

But the greatest act of love came when Jesus willingly gave His life on the cross. He died to take the punishment for our sins, so that we could be forgiven and made whole. His sacrifice was not the end of the story—Jesus rose from the dead, defeating death itself. Through His resurrection, He offers eternal life to anyone who believes in Him.

What does this mean for you?

Forgiveness: No matter what your past holds, God offers forgiveness through Jesus.

Purpose: Your life has meaning because God created you uniquely, with a role to play in His plan.

Hope: Even in the face of life's struggles, Jesus promises to be with us and lead us to eternal peace.


Becoming a follower of Jesus is not about abandoning your culture or traditions. Instead, it is about letting God bring His light and love into your life, transforming everything from the inside out. Just as a cherry blossom tree blooms in season, God desires for your life to flourish in a new and eternal way.

If this message speaks to your heart, you can respond by turning to God in prayer.

> A Simple Prayer
"God, I want to know You. Thank You for loving me and sending Jesus to save me. I confess my sins and ask for Your forgiveness. I choose to trust Jesus as my Savior and follow Him. Please guide me in this new life. Amen."



This is the beginning of a journey. God invites you to walk with Him daily, learn more about His Word, and find encouragement through others who follow Jesus.

The Gospel is good news for all nations, including Japan, and it is an invitation to the life of peace, purpose, and hope that only God can give.

How To Survive A Witch Attack.

Posted by Hayley Esther on Tuesday, November 12, 2024

 How to survive a  witch attack 

If you are unlucky enough to be singled out by a witch, its not easy to shake off their attacks. Witches are sneaky, experts at gas lighting and very precise in their craft. 

That said, other then the obvious rebuking the attack in Jesus name, their are a few things you can do.

Firstly don't be isolated, it makes you an easy target.

Secondly, identify what the witches end goal is. Are they looking to kill you? Drive you mad? What exactly is the witch going for that is attacking you?

I've had witches attack this blog, their goal was to get me to shut up.

Not happening.

Once you know what the witch is going for, identify their territory's. It might be possible to physically move out of their space. It might be necessity.

Running is not weakness, but at the same time don't be chased out of a space in which you are fulfilled. 

Stay grounded, protect your emotional regulation because you may need to make some firm decisions to deal with this, and its best to do that from a sound mind. 

Practice self defense but don't fight back unless you know what you are doing. 


Letters to life 2 - My Spiritual Awakening Journey

Posted by Hayley Esther on Monday, November 11, 2024
Ok life, it's been a while since I've written to you. Sorry about that. You got in the way of time to sit down and type. 

Anyway, to day I thought we'd talk about my spiritual journey. You see i have now expirenced "enlightenment" and I gotta say it's not all it's cracked up to be. 

I had the inner peace, sense of zen and connectivness but it has nothing on the peace I experience in Jesus. 

I had the "light of many occultic truthes shining on me" but not one of those truthes had anything on the truth found in Jesus. 

I have ventured the road less traveled and less recommended and it has taken me to some dark places. That's ok though, the holy spirit was always with me lighting the way. I learnt the secrets of the occult for educational reasons but upon the discovery of frequency I felt no need to engage in ceremonial magik although I read the books. I witnessed the deception first hand. 
You life, led me on a winding road, one that ventured into the darkness even when I felt the tugging of Christ on my heart. Had I listened, maybe I'd still be in London. I did not though and I instead found myself flat on my face home in Wales. There are ofcourse other reasons but falling in the dark when holy spirit had gone ahead of me home to Wales , was a big part of my journey. 
I have had involvement with several secret societies, but of course they don't exist so what more can I say? Delusion. It's hard to see through the thick fog of spiritual depression but somehow I made it through that. I learnt all about dark enlightenment then the vanilla breed, I learnt the secrets of the light are black. They fall so short of Jesus the genuine article . We've done eastern mystisim and western esoteric teachings. A myrid of religions and schools of thought but nothing has landed so solid as standing right back where I started. Standing on the rock of Christ Jesus. 

That is where I am now, right at the begining back to my first love, Jesus Christ. 

From here, life we build you up.

With the right foundations in place this time I can't wait. 

The Dangers of "Enlightenment" from a Christian Perspective

Posted by Hayley Esther on Monday, November 11, 2024
The Dangers of "Enlightenment" from a Christian Perspective

In our culture, the idea of "enlightenment" is often portrayed as the pinnacle of human achievement, a path to ultimate freedom, knowledge, and personal fulfillment. People pursue it through philosophy, spirituality, and self-help trends, aiming to transcend ordinary experiences. While seeking truth and meaning is natural, enlightenment as understood in many contemporary movements may pose real dangers from a Christian viewpoint. Below, we’ll explore why the quest for enlightenment, when it steps away from God, can lead to spiritual peril, moral confusion, and disconnection from the very truths that set us free.

1. Self-Deification: The Idol of Self

At the core of many enlightenment movements is the idea of self-deification—becoming "god-like" in wisdom or power. Some approaches to enlightenment advocate self-realization, not merely as growth, but as a divine awakening where the self becomes central. This philosophy echoes the oldest temptation in Scripture: when the serpent tempts Eve in the Garden, he says, “You will be like God” (Genesis 3:5).

For Christians, however, this emphasis on the self as the source of all truth and divinity is dangerously deceptive. Scripture tells us that there is only one God, and that we are His creation, designed to worship and glorify Him. Isaiah 42:8 reminds us that God will not share His glory with another. When enlightenment moves into self-worship, it draws us away from God, encouraging us to trust in our own wisdom rather than in His divine guidance.

2. Undermining the Authority of Scripture

Enlightenment philosophies often promote the belief that truth is relative or that it can be found by looking inward. But Christianity teaches that ultimate truth is found in God’s revelation through Scripture. Proverbs 3:5-6 instructs us to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

By looking within for truth, enlightenment philosophy may subtly push Christians to question or devalue the authority of the Bible. Instead of seeking God’s wisdom, people are encouraged to rely on subjective feelings or insights. This can lead to a type of spiritual relativism where individuals may create their own personal beliefs, cherry-picking doctrines and practices from various sources without accountability to God’s Word. The outcome? A shallow, subjective faith that lacks a firm foundation in God’s truth.

3. Spiritual Warfare: The Risk of Deception

Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that “our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” Enlightenment practices can open doors to spiritual experiences that may feel enlightening but are, in reality, spiritually dangerous.

Many traditions, especially in New Age or esoteric practices, advocate meditative techniques or mystical practices that aim to open the mind to otherworldly influences. For Christians, engaging in practices that invite unknown spiritual forces poses a grave risk. The Bible is clear that we are to avoid anything that connects us to spirits or forces other than God, as such practices can lead to spiritual bondage rather than freedom (Deuteronomy 18:10-12).

In pursuit of enlightenment, people can be drawn into deceptive, dark, or even demonic influences without realizing it. Scripture encourages us to remain vigilant and spiritually sober, discerning every spirit to avoid being led astray by false teachings or deceptive influences (1 John 4:1).

4. The Illusion of Self-Sufficiency

Another core danger of enlightenment philosophies is the idea that we can achieve fullness or wholeness entirely on our own. The Christian understanding of human nature is that we are deeply in need of God’s grace and love. Romans 3:23 states, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” emphasizing that we cannot achieve salvation or righteousness by our own efforts.

The belief that one can be entirely self-sufficient or "self-enlightened" promotes a false narrative about our human limitations and need for God. While we can certainly grow in knowledge and wisdom, our deepest spiritual needs—salvation, grace, and redemption—come only from God. When enlightenment becomes a way to bypass that dependence, it distances us from the redemptive work of Jesus and from the saving grace we are offered.

5. Loss of Humility and the Call to Serve

Christianity teaches that humility and service are essential virtues. Jesus Himself, though He was God, took on the nature of a servant, humbling Himself even to death on a cross (Philippians 2:5-8). Many enlightenment philosophies, however, subtly or overtly focus on personal greatness, power, or superiority, leading individuals to pursue self-glory over humility.

The drive for enlightenment can create an inward focus that leads to pride rather than humility, making one’s own “higher state” or awareness the goal. When we lose sight of humility, we also risk neglecting our call to serve others. The Christian life is not one of constant self-improvement for personal gain but one of growth that brings us closer to God and leads us to serve those around us in love.

6. Turning Away from the Ultimate Source of Light

Jesus said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life” (John 8:12). True enlightenment, from a Christian perspective, is found in Jesus Christ. He is the source of all wisdom, truth, and life. Seeking enlightenment outside of Christ is ultimately a pursuit that leaves us empty because it turns us away from the one who is Himself the Light.

The danger of enlightenment outside of Christ is that it can feel like illumination, even though it ultimately cannot lead to the fulfillment, peace, and freedom that only Jesus provides. Without Christ, any enlightenment we experience is incomplete and, in the end, will not lead us to eternal life.

Conclusion: Pursuing God’s Light over Human “Enlightenment”

While seeking knowledge and understanding is natural and good, Christians must be discerning about where and how they seek this enlightenment. True enlightenment comes not from transcending human limits through self-deification or subjective truths but from a humble submission to God, a faithful life grounded in Scripture, and a commitment to serve others in love.

As we pursue deeper understanding, let us remember that only in Christ will we find the truth, light, and life we seek. By aligning our lives with Him, we protect ourselves from the subtle dangers of enlightenment philosophies that promise much but ultimately fall short of His perfect truth. The goal is not personal glorification but the glorification of God, who is the true source of all light and life.

The Truth About Enlightenment

Posted by Hayley Esther on Friday, November 08, 2024
The Truth About Enlightenment.

I'm on my own journey and here's where I'm at .. 

The truth about enlightenment is that it is not one size fits all. Some people find enlightenment in their chosen god or goddesses, others find it in the idea we are gods and others still find it in the aha! Moments of understanding enough of the worlds workings to feel satisfied. 

The sad truth however is that enlightenment is not the end of the journey it is the begining. When you reach that enlightened state, you realise thàt you know nothing despite knowing things. 


My Bloggers Tool Box

Posted by Hayley Esther on Sunday, November 03, 2024




One of the key things bloggers need to do in order to keep working towards their dreams is to keep learning new skills to grow and expand.


I have been using Udemy for this for many years now, here are a few of my favourite courses that have made a very big difference to my blog and business. 


Quick note some of  these are affiliate links, if you do decide to do one of these awesome courses, you will not only learn great skills to further your business, but the small commission I will earn from these recommendations will go straight back into making Daisy Change as awesome as possible for all fo you lovely readers. 


I love Udemy for online learning. It's awesome because this platform lets you work at your own pace and many of the instructors are really lovely and very helpful. They have courses in multiple languages and the slick U.I is very user-friendly. 



Business, Marketing & Entrepreneurship Experts  

The Essential Guide to Entrepreneurship by Guy Kawasaki 

An Entire MBA in 1 Course: Award Winning Business School Prof ** #1 Best Selling Business Course! ** Everything You Need to Know About Business from Start-up to IPO 

Seth Godin's Freelancer Course Become Remarkable, Find Better Clients, and Do Work that matters 


Think Like a Leader with Brian Tracy  


Selling More by Talking Less 


Business Coach Certification Digital Marketing 


A blog for a Living: Complete Blogging Training [2019 Update] 


Affiliate Programs & Extra Earnings 


I use very few in this category but the ones I have I am very happy with, I'm sure you will be too. 


Viglink - I mostly use this for this website.  


MagicLinks - I mostly use this for social media. 


https://www.Swagbucks -


More to come, along with books and other resources.....


Watch this space! 























Great Books For Savvy Artists.

Posted by Hayley Esther on Sunday, November 03, 2024
So I talked it over with the king, and we've decided that there's something to be learnt from recent events. One tiny little lesson before I give you what you came for, our book recommendations for savvy artist's life and business. I read a lot so I have a lot to say in just a moment but before we get there.

It doesn't feel right to overload my awesome readers with content after such a heavy post like the last post. Click here if you didn't see it.

So instead of that, we have decided to put out today's post celebrating world book day, then leave posting for a while to give time and space and respect to our loved ones currently grieving.

Hope that's cool with you guys!

Anyway, 's let's get on with it, shall we?

I have decided to put this in 3 sections and there are roughly 12 books in all. Again I remind you pretty much all of these are affiliate links, this means that we may make a little tiny commission if you buy any of the books we suggest, but this will be no extra cost to you. It basically just means we get more jaffa cakes and hot chocolate to keep churning out content to inspire and encourage you guys.

Sound good?

Great!


Our First Section Is Life


Ok, guys, the whole point of these books is to help you be a better you. A better you will likely be able to produce better art. Get it?

Quick note, there's nothing wrong with the you, you are now, but we as humans are always moving towards something, it may as well be something better.

Here's the list.

Off-Balance On Purpose - Dan Thurmon I believe that work/life balance is a myth that can interfere with our art. Dan explains what's better to do instead of trying to balance things. 

Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life: A Kick-Butt Approach to a Better Life This book was life-changing for me. If you are fed up of fluffy little self-help books and need something with a few more nuts to chew on. This is your book. Loved it! Still, live by many of the principles in this book.

Calm - Fearne Cotton  If you want something a little more gentle then Fearne Cotton has got you covered. All of her books are fab, but this is my favourite.

Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers This was such a good book that really helped me get over myself so that I could just get on with getting my art up online. It's been one heck of a journey ever since, and I owe that in part to the lessons and simple writing style of the late, great Susan Jeffers.

Our Second Section Is Business

This is my personal favourite section and narrowing this down to just 4 was hard, but here's the best of the best when it comes to business books.

Craft a Creative Business: Making & Marketing a Successful Creative Business This is such a good little handbook for all artists wanting to sell their work.

She Means Business: Turn Your Ideas into Reality and Become a Wildly Successful Entrepreneur Pretty self-explanatory. Enjoy the surprise.

Small is the New Big - Seth Godin  - Seriously if you haven't read any of Seth Godin's books you should! Bonus because I can't not include it Linchpin that book revolutionised my business!

Secrets of Closing the Sale by Zig Ziglar It's been a hot minute but from what I remember, it's pretty good.




Our Final Section Is Art

So for this section, the listings are not going to be explained because I want to list a fair few and I know that these books will impact different types of artists in different ways. Enjoy guys! 


The Simpsons Handbook Secret Tips from the Pros 

How To Draw Comics The Marvel Way

How To Draw Stupid And Other Essentials Of Cartooning By Kyle Baker

Manga Martial Arts: Over 50 Basic Lessons For Drawing The World's Most Popular Fighting Style

The Animator's Survival Kit (Paperback) Richard E. Williams


If you like my style of books, please come follow me over on GoodReads

My Tips For Business + Resources (That Totally Work For Blogging)

Posted by Hayley Esther on Sunday, November 03, 2024
Dear Readers,

Happy New Year! 

In order to help you make  your year as successful as possible, I have compiled a list of my tips and go to resources to help kick start  your business. This is my new year gift to you. 

You are welcome. 


Before I get started, please feel free to read only the sections that apply to you, although you are very welcome to read the whole thing.

If you have any questions please do get in touch, I'm more than happy to help you if I can.

Okay then, let's get started by getting the longest section out-of-the-way!


1.Preparation Is Everything.



Organisation is very important to ensure that your business runs as smoothly as possible and you don't waste valuable time.That's pretty much a given, but what people don't usually think of is how important it is to have a backup plan. It's really important to spend some time working out what you will do if your business starts to fail.

Do you have some ideas of how you could get your business back on track?

Do you know where you're going? 

Gaining clarity on where you are going is super important and this needs to happen right at the beginning of your business, preferably before launch.

If you fail to do this, you will be setting yourself up for failure.

Also be aware that no matter how amazing your business is, not everyone is going to like you or believe in you, that is completely okay, they are entitled to their opinion, but don't let what people, even people in your close circle, think of you take you off base.

Again this is far less likely to happen if you plan for it. Have some polite but firm statements on your position rehearsed and written down for when you can't just ignore the naysayers ( because maybe the naysayer in question is a family member)

Make your statement, stay polite and focused but if the person questioning you refuses to listen, don't let that get to you. It can be so tempting the early stages of a new blog or business, to give up when people you care about don't share your dream but remember this is your dream, don't expect anyone else to see it the way you do because they won't. ( especially if your dream goes against the grain of what is deemed a proper job these days)

All of this perpetration stage could be covered if you make a business plan, even if your business or blog is not intended for making a profit, it's still a really important step. There are lots of different ways to do this, it's even possible to make a one page business plan, how you do it is not important. It's just really important that you take some time to do a bit of planning. It makes all the difference.




2.Have A Good Key-Chain.





There is not just one key to success in business, there are several but establishing a really strong network is really vital because sometimes the key you are looking for, is a person.

Not only is a good idea to connect with people in your industry, or similar industries via social media, but it is also a good idea to have a look at your friendship circle and see if you know anyone that could help you in a certain area of your business. One of my closest friends is a marketing expert. Another of my close friends is really good at coding ( something I hate) and others still are artists, writers of a different field and fantastic administrators and researchers.

Life is about helping each other and growing, if you think about  blogging, what this looks like is simply leaving genuine comments on other people's blogs. People are far more likely to check out your work if they see you care about what they have to say.

Also be engaged with your audience, if you get comments, tweets etc...make sure you reply.


3.Be True To You



I know I just said that networking is important and it is, but at the same time you need to make sure that you are only networking with people who enrich your life and business.

Once you have established the direction of your blog or business, then you should know what kind of people you want to be connected with, connect with the people who make you happy to have them in your contact list.

Don't feel like you have to talk to everyone because they might possibly be a future customer. Your focus matters but so does your health, convictions and happiness, don't compromise on any of these just to gain a new customer. 

You may gain that customer but you will lose many more that liked the real you and that is just really sad.

You will figure out your focus when you are true to your own heart because this brings out your passion and passion is something that impacts the success of your business greatly.



4.Move With The Times.



Trends change and grow, they evolve and take twists and turns, its important for anyone in business to make sure that they are keeping up with the trends of today so they can create the demand of tomorrow. 

There is no point in blogging about how to use video cassettes because they are now redundant for the most part.

A good way to make sure that your business is current is to see what else your customers are paying attention to and then what kind of content your competition is producing. Amazon comments can be great for this.


 

5.Balance it baby!



Life is not meant to be all work or all play. We need a balance of both in order to feel fulfilled.  I absolutely detest the idea of chasing happiness. I believe in chasing fulfillment instead. A key way of doing that is by living in the moment and enjoying the life you have and the people who are in it, and making sure you take care of yourself too. Yes, building your business is important to you, but if you don't have anyone to share your success with, then what is the point?

Family and friends matter, don't neglect them in pursuit of success. It's not worth it!

Also, the more enriched your life is by things outside of your business, the more you will have the energy to focus on your business.

There will be times when you have to make sacrifices but don't work too hard, burning out is not going to be a good thing for you or your business.

If you don't check out any of my other resource recommendations please do check out this one, it's really important you understand what working too much could do to you.

Please take care.


6.Don't be Beige.


Standing out is the only way to make people take notice of you. Don't be beige it's boring. Beige stays in the comfort box, doesn't take risks and doesn't make a difference. Some of you reading this will only be wanting to make success from your business, but some of you may well be looking to make history.

Did beige ever do that?

No, not unless it counts for being the most boring and depressing colour ever.
Being undecided is just not an option if you want to make it in the business world. Taking risks is just part of the deal. Running a business is hard work,beige would take the short cut, stay in the middle and be satisfied with less than the best.

Don't do that. 

If fear is an issue for you then Susan Jeffers book could be as life changing for you as it was for me.


7.If You Want Customers To Care, Your Customer Care Needs To Be Top Notch



You've heard it before but taking care of your customers should be your number one priority, you wouldn't even have a business without them. Again, this comes into the business integrity issue, but more than that it's about making someone's day and ultimately getting them to keep coming back and tell others about your business and how you gave them such good customer service!

 If you look after them, how can they not come back?

 


8. Be Tigger 



Those of you who know me in real life will know that I am the girl who has been knocked down more times than I can count,but I am also the girl who has gotten up more times than most. You have to.

Tigger never ever stops bouncing, you shouldn't either. 

You can't predict what is going to happen in life but you are responsible for how you react. Get up and keep going, if you have a dream then make it happen, no one else is going to do it for you and you are the right person for the job.

Business, like life is a roller-coaster, and you do have to learn to roll with the punches, but it is worth it in the long run. If being your own boss is the thing you need to do to be fulfilled in life, then get up and make something awesome happen!

Remember any issue you have in business is likely to already have been experienced by someone else and chances are that someone has written a book or uploaded a video on that very topic. Don't be afraid to reach out, it can create great working relationships  and is good for your health, well-being and business.

We are designed to grow, if we stay still too long, we usually wind up falling and looking back. Also, don't neglect your spiritual growth and take some time out just to relax and be at peace. 
Don't think you know it all, stay teachable and keep learning, keep growing and make your business awesome, because you can.

You just need to believe that and get to work.


Over the next few months we will be unpacking these tips once every two weeks.

Why so spaced out?

Because I want you to have ample time to apply each tip. Rushing this will only lead to a crash and I don't  want that for you, so please do take your time to use these tips as starting point to dive in deeper in each subject.

See you next post!

Love Hayley

xXx

How To Do It All (and still be relatively sane)

Posted by Hayley Esther on Sunday, November 03, 2024


Self Love For Bloggers



There is a delicate balance as a blogger, between reading or watching things because it's research for our own blog, and watching and reading things just because we enjoy it.


 I am convinced true life balance is a complete illusion.



I have believed perfect work/life balance was a myth for many years work-life/balance requires perfection, this is an unrealistic goal to be chasing. 

None of us is perfect so why chase perfection?


With that in mind, the title of this post claims the content you are reading contains advice on how to juggle life as a blogger. 

It does. 


Trust me I am getting to that, but before I give you my tips for managing blogging and life, I first needed to set the scene just so I can give you what I think is the number one most valuable self-loving thing you can do for yourself as a blogger, and indeed a person.


Don't put so much pressure on yourself,
 take some time every day just for you. 


You can't make your blog as awesome as you want to if you don't have the energy to take care of you. 


Only then will you be on top of your game to take care of your blog or whatever else you need to do.


1. Remember the three C's

  1. Consistency 
  2. Connections
  3. Cut it down!
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Consistently putting our goals into little tasks will make life a lot less stressful and increase productivity but we were designed for a relationship so there will come a point where we can no longer do things on our own.

How does this apply to bloggers?

We can consistently create all the content we want to, but if we don't network we won't likely have any readers!


1. Building relationships is a beautiful necessity.



If your blog is your business, then I can understand why you feel like you want to do everything yourself I get it, trust me I do. 

It is your blog and you want to make it what you want it to be. That is more than fair enough, but if you reach out to other with different skills, and focus on your own strengths you will make some new friends, create a more professional feel on your blog and be less stressed because you have delegated those things you're not so good at to other people.

2. Mix it up!

Set some time to research how a bunch of different people handle juggling blogging and life, then cherry-pick the tips you like, find what works for you and create your own unique schedule that is perfect for you.

3. Preparation is everything

The one thing that everyone needs to do in order to have a schedule that will be productive is planning ahead. There are many ways to do this. 

Some people schedule their blog posts, others have life management files, others still use calendars, agendas or dairies and then there are those people like me that do all of the above. 

Whatever you decide to use to manage your life, make sure you do plan ahead. 

Knowing you already handled certain things frees up time to do other things and is an excellent stress killer!

4. See yourself as a whole person and plan accordingly.

If you see yourself as just flesh and bones and forget about taking care of yourself emotionally and psychologically then your body will suffer for this.

Make sure before you take on new tasks that you are mentally, emotionally and physically up to the challenge at hand. If not then don't be afraid to say no. 

We've come full circle, it really is super important to take care of you before you worry about all the demands of life.





5. Keep it simple.

You knew this one was coming, this entire blog is about simplicity after all!

 The key thing you need to remember when creating a plan to manage your life is how your plan is serving you. A good management plan should be simple, help you be productive and on task to complete your goals and NOT a burden! 


There is a big difference between being stretched or challenged and feeling overwhelmed or burdened, but that's a whole other post.


Anyway, I need to follow my own advice and look after myself and go eat something so I will leave it there.




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Transforming Your Wardrobe for Joy: A Journey to a Happier You

Posted by Hayley Esther on Monday, May 27, 2024

 Transforming Your Wardrobe for Joy: A Journey to a Happier You


Clothing is more than just fabric that covers our bodies; it’s a powerful tool for self-expression, confidence, and joy. The clothes we wear can significantly impact our mood and how we interact with the world. If you find yourself standing in front of a closet full of clothes yet feeling like you have nothing to wear, it might be time to revamp your wardrobe with joy in mind. Here’s how you can transform your wardrobe to bring more happiness into your life.


 1. Declutter with Purpose


The first step to a joyful wardrobe is decluttering. Go through each item in your closet and ask yourself whether it brings you joy. This concept, popularized by Marie Kondo's KonMari method, encourages you to keep only those pieces that spark joy. Letting go of clothes that no longer serve you or make you happy can be liberating. Donate or sell items that don’t fit, are out of style, or simply don’t make you feel good.


 2. Identify Your Style and Needs


Take some time to reflect on your personal style and the needs of your lifestyle. Are you drawn to vibrant colors and bold patterns, or do you prefer neutral tones and classic cuts? Your wardrobe should reflect your personality and make you feel authentic. Additionally, consider your daily activities and ensure your clothes are practical and versatile. A balanced wardrobe should cater to your professional, casual, and special occasion needs.


 3. Invest in Quality, Not Quantity


Quality over quantity is a mantra for a joyful wardrobe. Instead of buying multiple pieces of fast fashion, invest in high-quality, timeless pieces that will last. Well-made clothes not only look better but also feel better to wear. When you invest in quality, you’re more likely to cherish and take care of your clothes, leading to a more sustainable and joyful wardrobe.


 4. Incorporate Color and Texture


Colors can significantly affect our mood. Incorporate colors that make you happy and confident into your wardrobe. Don’t be afraid to experiment with textures and patterns as well. A mix of textures can make your outfits more interesting and joyful. Whether it’s a soft cashmere sweater, a silk scarf, or a pair of leather boots, the tactile experience of wearing different textures can enhance your overall sense of well-being.

5. Create Outfit Formulas


Having a few go-to outfit formulas can make dressing in the morning a joy rather than a chore. An outfit formula is a simple combination of pieces that you know works well together. For example, a tailored blazer, a crisp white shirt, and a pair of well-fitted jeans could be one of your formulas. By having these formulas, you reduce decision fatigue and make getting dressed a pleasant experience.


6. Prioritize Comfort and Fit


Clothes that fit well and are comfortable to wear can drastically improve your mood. Make sure your clothes fit your body well and don’t cause discomfort. It’s worth getting items tailored if necessary. When you’re comfortable in your clothes, it shows in your confidence and overall demeanor.


 7.Personalize with Accessories


Accessories can add a touch of joy to any outfit. Whether it’s a statement necklace, a colorful scarf, or a pair of funky socks, accessories allow you to express your personality and creativity. They can also make old outfits feel new again. Choose accessories that make you smile and that you love to wear.


 8. Embrace Seasonal Changes


Changing your wardrobe with the seasons can bring a sense of renewal and excitement. Rotate your clothes to reflect the current season, storing off-season items out of sight. This keeps your wardrobe feeling fresh and ensures you’re always dressed appropriately for the weather. Plus, it gives you something to look forward to as the seasons change.


 9. Sustainable Choices for Joy


Being mindful of the environmental impact of your wardrobe can also bring joy. Choose sustainable brands, buy second-hand, and support ethical fashion practices. Knowing that your clothing choices are contributing to a better world can enhance your sense of joy and fulfillment.


10. Celebrate Your Wardrobe


Lastly, take time to celebrate your wardrobe. Organize it in a way that is pleasing to the eye, maybe even color-coordinated or by type of clothing. Enjoy the process of putting together outfits and appreciate the pieces you own. When you take pride in your wardrobe, it becomes a source of joy rather than stress.


Changing your wardrobe for joy isn’t about following trends or impressing others; it’s about creating a collection of clothes that make you feel your best. By focusing on quality, comfort, and personal expression, you can transform your wardrobe into a source of daily happiness. Remember, the goal is to feel good in what you wear and to let your clothes be a true reflection of your joyful self.

Unlocking Your Potential: The Power of Changing Your Mindset

Posted by Hayley Esther on Monday, May 27, 2024
 Unlocking Your Potential: The Power of Changing Your Mindset

In a world where challenges are inevitable and success often seems elusive, one of the most powerful tools at our disposal is our mindset. It shapes our perceptions, influences our reactions, and ultimately determines our life's trajectory. Changing your mindset is not just a motivational catchphrase; it's a transformative process that can unlock your potential and pave the way for a more fulfilling and successful life. Let's explore the steps to change your mindset and the profound impact it can have on you.

Understanding Mindset

Before diving into how to change your mindset, it's crucial to understand what mindset is. Psychologist Carol Dweck popularized the concept of fixed and growth mindsets in her groundbreaking research. A fixed mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence are static and unchangeable. People with a fixed mindset often avoid challenges, give up easily, and feel threatened by the success of others. In contrast, a growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort, learning, and perseverance. Those with a growth mindset embrace challenges, persist through obstacles, and view failure as an opportunity to learn.

The Importance of a Growth Mindset

Adopting a growth mindset can lead to numerous benefits, including:

1. **Increased Resilience**: People with a growth mindset are more resilient in the face of setbacks. They see challenges as opportunities to grow rather than insurmountable obstacles.
2. **Enhanced Learning**: A growth mindset fosters a love for learning and a desire to improve, leading to continuous personal and professional development.
3. **Better Relationships**: Embracing a growth mindset can improve relationships by promoting empathy, open communication, and a willingness to understand and support others.
4. **Greater Achievement**: Those with a growth mindset are more likely to set ambitious goals and achieve them, as they believe in their capacity to grow and succeed.

Steps to Change Your Mindset

Changing your mindset is a journey that requires self-awareness, effort, and persistence. Here are some practical steps to help you transition from a fixed to a growth mindset:

1. **Acknowledge and Challenge Your Fixed Mindset Thoughts**: The first step is to become aware of your fixed mindset thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking, "I can't do this" or "I'm just not good at this," challenge these thoughts. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?" or "How can I improve?"

2. **Embrace Challenges**: Instead of avoiding difficult tasks, seek them out. Embrace challenges as opportunities to grow and learn. Remember, every challenge you overcome strengthens your growth mindset.

3. **Learn from Criticism**: Constructive criticism is a valuable tool for growth. Instead of taking it personally, use it as feedback to improve. Reflect on the criticism, identify areas for development, and take action.

4. **Celebrate Effort and Progress**: Focus on the effort you put into tasks rather than just the outcomes. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. This reinforces the belief that effort leads to improvement.

5. **Cultivate Curiosity and a Love for Learning**: Stay curious and open to new experiences. Read, take courses, and engage in activities that expand your knowledge and skills. A love for learning is a cornerstone of the growth mindset.

6. **Surround Yourself with Growth-Minded People**: The people you spend time with can influence your mindset. Surround yourself with individuals who have a growth mindset and support your journey. Engage in conversations that inspire and challenge you.

7. **Practice Self-Compassion**: Changing your mindset is not about achieving perfection. Be kind to yourself and recognize that growth is a continuous process. When you encounter setbacks, treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer another person.

The Impact of a Changed Mindset

The journey to a growth mindset is transformative. By changing your mindset, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities. You'll find that you're more resilient, more open to learning, and more capable of achieving your goals. Your relationships will improve, and you'll approach life's challenges with a newfound sense of confidence and determination.

In conclusion, changing your mindset is not a one-time event but a lifelong journey. It requires dedication, practice, and a willingness to embrace change. By shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset, you can unlock your potential and create a more fulfilling and successful life. Start today, and watch as your world transforms.

The Running Shoes - Suicide, Depressio & Fighting To Win!

Posted by Hayley Esther on Sunday, February 11, 2024
Trigger Warning - Low mood, depression, pain, suicide, past hurts, written about with the intent of encouragement 

Disclaimer - As always I still recommend seeking professional advice as to the first course of action if you are feeling low or depressed. All advice given is from experience only.


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Lambi Says - Don't let depression or anxiety beat you up you got this, fight to win!


If you have read my last few posts you will know that as of late I have been suffering from depression. 

Yet again Jet and his friends had me in a cage that was locked from the inside. (Jet is the name I give to depression because when it shows up for me it is usually jet black)

Sometimes life throws things at us that we really don't expect. When this happens we have to decide if we are going to retreat within ourselves or get out there and serve others. 

It can be the hardest thing to push yourself to think of others when you're feeling really low, but it's the very thing we need to do in such times. I have learned some other lessons about Jet and his friends that I want to share with you.

1. Jet's best friend is a doubt. 

Depression and doubt go hand in hand and together with fear, they tie you up and paralyze you, so they can throw more rubbish at you and make you think you are unable to fight back.

2. Depression lies. 

When depression hits, the voices start. Those voices that say you're worthless or that life isn't worth living, it's pretty common knowledge that depression can lead to bouts of feeling suicidal, but what's lesser known is depression lies to us in other ways too.

Depression can twist things in your mind, nothing is ever what it seems with depression, because you have a black veil over your eyes and unable to see clearly. 

I know from experience, I have done some pretty stupid things when listening to the voice of Jet and his friends. We can't blame all our stupid decisions on depression, but you best believe that depression can contribute to making things worse if you don't take care over what you say and do.

3. Depression loves drama.

It's not uncommon to think that things are far worse than they actually are, just because you are depressed, but also it's not uncommon to fill in blanks with things that are not really there. There is a tendency to overthink things when you're depressed, purely because you suddenly have the time to do so because your mind is not actively thinking about other things.

4. Life doesn't care that you did something because you were depressed, you will have to deal with the consequences anyway because that's just a part of life.

 It can be painful, especially if you know that depression was the reason actions such as rejecting people, lashing out or just disappearing from the world for a while actually happened and you now have to deal with the consequences of something you did when you were not feeling yourself.

5. Depression is selfish.

It seems to be concerned with your pain but really it seeks only to give you more of the same. I know this one may get a little bit of lash back and that's fine. I understand that depression can be a chemical/hormonal issue, but it doesn't change the fact that if you let it, depression will tell you what to do.

These are 5 lessons I've learnt from my last visit from Jet.

 I'm sharing them because although many people experience different things even when battling the same issues, at least one of those lines I've just written may make you think of something in your own life.

I'm trying to make a point here, we can justify it and rationalize it all we like, don't get me wrong I am on the side of those fighting to end the stigma surrounding mental illness.

I know the pain of depression all too well, but the fact is, depression doesn't care about us, and its high time we fight back!

You see guys, there is hope. When you're depressed you don't think there is, but as I have stated before, sometimes hope is hidden. 

We can't see the beauty of a brand new day when we are too busy hiding under the sheets just wanting to give up on everything. 

Have you noticed that covering your head, be it by a blanket, your hands or something else, is the go-to position when you feel really low?


Depression loves the dark.

 Don't feed it.


Depression loves you to suffer. 

So take care of yourself.



Depression seeks to take you down.

 So take it down first. 


Fight to win!! 

You can, you think that you're too weak, but you are much stronger than you think and that pain you feel right now, is only a reminder that you are alive, you can make it.

Get up, it's time to start running again.

How?

The number one way to battle depression is to make sure you have the right tools for the job.

Get armed!
 Knowledge is power, but only if you apply it. 


Get the right tools for the job. 

Invest in yourself.

Know your enemy so you can work out how best to fight and get the right armour for the job because the battle is fierce!

  • This includes The right support - family, friends, medical professionals etc..
  • The right care tools - for your body, soul and spirit.
  • The right lifestyle for you, it's really important to be true to yourself and to allow your creativity, gifts and talents to be released into this world.
To be true to yourself, you must first find yourself.


The journey of self-discovery may take you to some strange places but stick with it because after finding God, finding yourself is the most precious discovery you can ever make and it will help you fight to win when it comes to depression.

Chase fulfilment, but don't forget to let yourself be happy too. 

Make peace with your past, because if you leave anything buried alive it will stink and like a zombie, come chasing you in your present life ready to kill you and taking you kicking and screaming back to the painful places.


I don't know who I am writing this too right now, but don't give up we need you!

You were born to solve a problem only YOU can solve.



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You were born with a purpose that goes far beyond this life, you can and will leave a legacy, but if you give up today...then the world loses out and the pain will not end.

Beautiful girl, the sun always shines brightest after the storm. 

Always. 
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The Son always shines brightest after the storm.

Dude, you got this.

Stand firm, get those running shoes on and prepare for battle.


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I don't know if Jet is ever going to get the message, the harder he and his dark company fight me, the harder I will fight back. The more encouragement, hope and love I will release into this world because I will not let Jet beat me!!

I wonder if maybe that's why life keeps throwing me this battle over and over again, but no matter the reason, I have resolved to fight to win, it was not an easy decision and fighting is part of the deal in the battle. 

Some days I really don't feel like it, and it is in those moments I must throw myself again on my Savior and allow my friends to help me keep my head above water. I want my life to be a living example that there is always hope.

Even if you suffer from depression, you can still have a fairly normal life ( whatever normal is) depression doesn't have to dictate how you treat other people, your life choices or your ability to work and chase your dreams. 



Yes I know it's hard sometimes , but that's why they call it a battle and here's a little secret about life, it's hard sometimes, fighting is a part of our makeup, we are designed to stand, we are designed to run and we are designed to win, the question is, are you ready to put away the excuses and get on with the race?  

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A few days ago I didn't want to be here, Jet had me in a headlock, but now I am so grateful for all the amazing people I learned my battle strategy for Jets attacks because he didn't win. I'm still breathing and life goes on.

I know this thoughts day post is a little late, but like I said at the beginning iv been going through a horrible depression recently and honestly, it nearly took me out....nearly.

I am back now though, stronger and more ready to fight than ever. 

Jet doesn't get to win in my life, not now not ever, but what about you?

Aren't you tired of being pushed around by depression?


Then stand up dear friend, an army is forming to take down Jet and all his evil devices, and if no one else wants the job, I'm happy to be the general. 

Are you in?

If you have any thoughts or comments feel free to get in touch, but for now, I think that's about it. 

I'm more than happy to pray for you if you send me your prayer request or to just listen if that is what you need.

Take care all, no seriously please take care!

Love Hayley
xXx